The afternoon my daughter told me nobody wanted her around, I thought I understood what she meant.<\/p>\n
I was wrong.<\/p>\n
My name is Rebecca Harper, and at the time, my daughter, Emily, was twelve years old. She had always been a thoughtful child, the kind who remembered a friend’s favorite snack and worried when someone sat alone at lunch. She loved drawing, reading mystery novels, and spending Saturday mornings baking pancakes with me.<\/p>\n
She wasn’t the loudest girl in her class, but she had a small circle of friends she seemed comfortable with. At least, that was what I believed.<\/p>\n
Then one Thursday afternoon, she came home, dropped her backpack beside the front door, and stood in the kitchen without taking off her coat.<\/p>\n
I was preparing dinner when I noticed she hadn’t said hello.<\/p>\n
“Sweetheart, are you okay?”<\/p>\n
She stared at the floor.<\/p>\n
“Mom, nobody wants me around.”<\/p>\n
The knife in my hand stopped moving.<\/p>\n
I set it down and crossed the kitchen.<\/p>\n
“What happened?”<\/p>\n
She shrugged, but her eyes were already filling with tears.<\/p>\n
“Nothing. It’s stupid.”<\/p>\n
“Whatever it is, you can tell me.”<\/p>\n
She shook her head.<\/p>\n
“I don’t want to talk about it.”<\/p>\n
I pulled her into my arms. She held on tightly, burying her face against my shoulder.<\/p>\n
I told her that middle school could be difficult, that friendships sometimes changed, and that one bad day didn’t mean she wasn’t loved. I promised that things would get better.<\/p>\n
She nodded against me.<\/p>\n
I thought I had helped.<\/p>\n
That night, she ate a little dinner, finished her homework, and went to bed early. When I checked on her later, she was lying on her side with her blanket pulled over her head.<\/p>\n
I kissed her forehead and turned off the light.<\/p>\n
I didn’t know that she had been crying for hours.<\/p>\n
I didn’t know that she had already begun believing the cruel things other people were saying about her.<\/p>\n
And I certainly didn’t know that my reassurance, however sincere, was nowhere near enough to reach the place where her pain had taken hold.<\/p>\n
The following morning, I emailed her homeroom teacher, Mrs. Palmer.<\/p>\n
I explained that Emily had come home upset and said she felt unwanted. I asked whether anything had happened at school and whether the teacher had noticed changes in her behavior.<\/p>\n
Mrs. Palmer replied before lunchtime.<\/p>\n
She wrote that Emily was quiet but polite, completed her work, and had not reported any serious problems with classmates. She promised to keep an eye on her.<\/p>\n
I appreciated the response, but something bothered me.<\/p>\n
Emily had never been particularly loud. Her silence could easily be mistaken for contentment. She rarely complained, and she had a habit of saying she was fine when she didn’t want to burden anyone.<\/p>\n
I contacted the school counselor as well.<\/p>\n
The counselor told me that Emily had not asked for help and that no formal bullying complaint had been recorded.<\/p>\n
Everyone seemed reassuring.<\/p>\n
Nobody seemed alarmed.<\/p>\n
I tried to convince myself that perhaps I was worrying too much.<\/p>\n
But when Emily came home that afternoon, she went straight to her bedroom and shut the door.<\/p>\n
She didn’t ask for a snack. She didn’t tell me about her classes. When I called her for dinner, she said she wasn’t hungry.<\/p>\n
I knocked on her door.<\/p>\n
“Can I come in?”<\/p>\n
“Not right now, Mom.”<\/p>\n
I stood outside for a moment, unsure what to do.<\/p>\n
Then I heard her crying.<\/p>\n
It was quiet, almost deliberately controlled, as though she were trying to make sure I wouldn’t hear.<\/p>\n
My heart tightened.<\/p>\n
I wanted to open the door and insist that she tell me everything. Instead, I reminded myself that she was twelve, old enough to need some privacy but still young enough to need my protection.<\/p>\n
I waited until she came out to get a glass of water.<\/p>\n
“Emily,” I said gently, “I know you told me nobody wants you around. I don’t want to force you to talk, but I’m worried about you.”<\/p>\n
She looked away.<\/p>\n
“I’m just tired.”<\/p>\n
“Have people been unkind to you?”<\/p>\n
She shook her head too quickly.<\/p>\n
“No.”<\/p>\n
I knew she was hiding something.<\/p>\n
I just didn’t know how to reach it.<\/p>\n
That evening, while Emily was downstairs taking a shower, her phone buzzed on the kitchen counter.<\/p>\n
I had never made a habit of reading her private messages. We had rules about online safety, and I checked her device occasionally with her knowledge, mainly to make sure she understood how to protect herself from strangers.<\/p>\n
But I had never imagined that her phone might contain something she was terrified to show me.<\/p>\n
I picked it up because another notification appeared.<\/p>\n
The message preview read:<\/p>\n
You should just disappear. Nobody would even care.<\/em><\/p>\n My hands went cold.<\/p>\n I unlocked the phone using the family safety access we had previously agreed on, then opened the conversation.<\/p>\n The messages went back several weeks.<\/p>\n At first, I thought I was looking at an argument between two children. There were insults about Emily’s clothes, her appearance, and the way she spoke in class.<\/p>\n Then I found messages from several other accounts.<\/p>\n Some belonged to students she recognized. Others used unfamiliar usernames. A few appeared to come from people who were older than Emily.<\/p>\n They called her worthless. They mocked her drawings. They made jokes about her family. They told her that nobody liked her and that she would never have real friends.<\/p>\n One message said that the school would be better off if she stopped showing up.<\/p>\n Another told her that everyone would be happier if she disappeared.<\/p>\n I read the same lines again and again, hoping I had misunderstood them.<\/p>\n I hadn’t.<\/p>\n There were group chats where people shared screenshots of her posts and laughed at her comments. There were edited pictures designed to embarrass her. Someone had taken a harmless photograph of her holding a library book and added a caption calling her pathetic.<\/p>\n The cruelty was relentless.<\/p>\n What frightened me most was how ordinary some of the messages looked between the worst ones. Someone would ask about homework, then insult her a few minutes later. A person who had once called her a friend would tell her to stop being so sensitive before joining in with the others.<\/p>\n The messages had taught Emily that kindness could turn into humiliation without warning.<\/p>\n I sat down at the kitchen table.<\/p>\n My eyes filled with tears, but I forced myself to keep breathing.<\/p>\n I wanted to call every parent involved. I wanted to drive to the school and demand to know how this had happened. I wanted to find the people who had written those words and make them understand what they had done to my daughter.<\/p>\n But Emily was still upstairs.<\/p>\n She was going to come down soon, and I needed to think clearly.<\/p>\n I took screenshots of the messages and saved copies with their dates, account names, and surrounding conversation where available. I made a separate record of the group chats and the accounts that appeared to be involved.<\/p>\n I did not reply to anyone or pretend to be Emily.<\/p>\n I also avoided deleting anything, even though every cruel message made me want to throw the phone across the room.<\/p>\n By the time Emily came downstairs, I had saved enough evidence to understand that this was not an isolated disagreement.<\/p>\n It was sustained harassment.<\/p>\n I put the phone on the table.<\/p>\n “Emily, sweetheart, I saw some of your messages.”<\/p>\n Her face changed instantly.<\/p>\n She stopped walking.<\/p>\n Then she whispered, “You read them?”<\/p>\n “I saw a message that frightened me. I was worried about you, so I looked further.”<\/p>\n She backed away.<\/p>\n “You’re not supposed to read my stuff!”<\/p>\n “I know you’re upset, and we’ll talk about your privacy. But I need you to understand that I’m worried because people are hurting you.”<\/p>\n Her eyes filled with tears.<\/p>\n “You don’t understand.”<\/p>\n “Then help me understand.”<\/p>\n She shook her head.<\/p>\n “You’ll make it worse.”<\/p>\n The words struck me harder than anything I had read.<\/p>\n I pulled out a chair, but I didn’t reach for her.<\/p>\n “Has someone threatened you if you tell?”<\/p>\n She stared at the floor.<\/p>\n “Not exactly.”<\/p>\n “What does that mean?”<\/p>\n She wiped her face with her sleeve.<\/p>\n “They said if I told a teacher, everyone would know I was a snitch. They said they’d make more accounts and post more pictures. They said nobody would believe me because I don’t have many friends.”<\/p>\n I moved closer, slowly enough that she could step away if she wanted.<\/p>\n “Emily, look at me.”<\/p>\n She finally raised her eyes.<\/p>\n “You are not in trouble. You haven’t done anything wrong by asking for help. And I am not going to blame you for what other people have chosen to say.”<\/p>\n Her face crumpled.<\/p>\n Then the whole story came out.<\/p>\n It had begun with a disagreement during a group assignment. Emily had corrected another student’s mistake while they were preparing a presentation. The student, a girl named Chloe, accused her of trying to make everyone look stupid.<\/p>\n Emily apologized, even though she had only been trying to help.<\/p>\n The next day, Chloe told several classmates that Emily thought she was better than everyone else.<\/p>\n A few students stopped sitting with her at lunch.<\/p>\n Someone removed her from a group chat.<\/p>\n Then a photograph appeared in another chat, accompanied by a mocking caption.<\/p>\n Emily tried to ignore it, hoping the attention would move elsewhere. Instead, each attempt to defend herself gave the others another reason to tease her.<\/p>\n One girl told her to stop acting like a victim. A boy began sending insulting messages late at night. Other students forwarded screenshots from one group to another.<\/p>\n Eventually, people Emily barely knew were joining in.<\/p>\n “Why didn’t you tell me?” I asked softly.<\/p>\n She stared at her hands.<\/p>\n “Because I thought you would call the school, and then everyone would know. I thought you would tell me to block them, and then they would make fun of me for being scared.”<\/p>\n I felt a deep ache in my chest.<\/p>\n “I might have asked you to block them,” I admitted. “But I would never have told you that this was your fault.”<\/p>\n She began crying harder.<\/p>\n “I thought maybe they were right about me.”<\/p>\n I moved beside her and held her while she cried.<\/p>\n “No, sweetheart. Cruel people can repeat a lie so many times that it starts to sound true. That doesn’t make it true.”<\/p>\n We sat together for a long time.<\/p>\n I didn’t tell her to be strong. I didn’t tell her to ignore it. I didn’t promise that everything would be fixed by morning.<\/p>\n I simply stayed with her.<\/p>\n When she was calmer, I asked whether anyone had threatened to hurt her physically or had encouraged her to harm herself.<\/p>\n She said nobody had directly threatened to attack her, but some messages told her that the world would be better without her.<\/p>\n I asked whether she had ever felt like hurting herself or not wanting to be alive.<\/p>\n She hesitated, then admitted that she had sometimes wished she could disappear so that the messages would stop.<\/p>\n The fear that rose inside me was almost unbearable.<\/p>\n I hugged her and thanked her for telling me.<\/p>\n We agreed that I would stay close that night and that we would contact her pediatrician and a mental health professional for guidance. I wanted to make sure she had support beyond what I could offer as her mother.<\/p>\n I also explained that we would not handle the school situation by sending angry messages to other children or their parents. We would preserve the evidence, ask the school to investigate, and take appropriate steps to protect her.<\/p>\n For the first time in weeks, Emily looked as though she could breathe.<\/p>\n The following morning, I printed the evidence we had collected. It took hundreds of pages because the conversations stretched across several platforms and included long group chats.<\/p>\n I organized everything by date and account, with a brief summary at the front. I included the messages that directly targeted Emily, the threats of further harassment if she reported the behavior, and examples showing how the abuse had spread beyond her immediate circle.<\/p>\n I also brought copies of the emails I had sent to the school and the responses I had received.<\/p>\n I did not want the meeting to become a contest of opinions.<\/p>\n I wanted the adults responsible for Emily’s safety to see what had actually happened.<\/p>\n At nine o’clock, I walked into the principal’s office carrying two thick folders.<\/p>\n Principal Daniels looked up from her computer.<\/p>\n “Mrs. Harper. Thank you for coming in. I understand you’re concerned about Emily.”<\/p>\n I placed the folders on her desk.<\/p>\n “I’m more than concerned. My daughter has been receiving abusive messages for weeks, and when I contacted the school, I was told that nothing unusual had been observed.”<\/p>\n Principal Daniels looked at the folders.<\/p>\n “What exactly have you brought?”<\/p>\n “Evidence of ongoing harassment, including messages from students, accounts we haven’t identified, and people who appear to be older than the children involved.”<\/p>\n She opened the first folder.<\/p>\n As she read, her expression changed.<\/p>\n She turned a page.<\/p>\n Then another.<\/p>\n She picked up a screenshot and examined the date.<\/p>\n “How long has this been going on?”<\/p>\n “At least several weeks. Possibly longer. We are still reviewing the records.”<\/p>\n She glanced toward the door.<\/p>\n “I’d like our safeguarding lead to join us.”<\/p>\n “Of course.”<\/p>\n While we waited, she continued reading.<\/p>\n At one point, she stopped at a page showing a message that threatened to spread more humiliating pictures if Emily told a teacher.<\/p>\n Principal Daniels put the paper down.<\/p>\n “This is serious.”<\/p>\n “Yes,” I replied. “It is.”<\/p>\n The safeguarding lead, Mr. Bennett, arrived a few minutes later. He read the summary, asked about the platforms involved, and began taking notes.<\/p>\n I explained that we had preserved the original messages and had not responded to the accounts. I also told them that Emily was frightened of retaliation.<\/p>\n They agreed that the school needed to investigate the behavior and take steps to prevent further harassment.<\/p>\n Then Principal Daniels looked at her computer.<\/p>\n “Mrs. Harper,” she said carefully, “before we discuss these messages, you need to see something.”<\/p>\n She turned the screen toward me.<\/p>\n My stomach tightened.<\/p>\n On the screen was a report from the school’s online safety system. It contained a list of recent incidents flagged by students and staff.<\/p>\n Near the top was a post that included Emily’s name.<\/p>\n Below it was a screenshot of a message that appeared to have been sent from an account using a school staff member’s name.<\/p>\n The message did not directly insult Emily. Instead, it mocked the idea that she was being bullied and suggested that she was exaggerating ordinary disagreements to get attention.<\/p>\n I stared at the screen.<\/p>\n “Who wrote that?”<\/p>\n Principal Daniels took a breath.<\/p>\n “We don’t yet know who controlled the account. The name displayed on it appears to belong to a staff member, but that does not establish who sent the message.”<\/p>\n Mr. Bennett leaned forward.<\/p>\n “We received this report yesterday. The account has been temporarily restricted while our technology team examines the available information.”<\/p>\n I looked at the date.<\/p>\n The post had appeared after I first contacted the school.<\/p>\n “Someone knew I had complained.”<\/p>\n “We’re investigating that possibility,” Principal Daniels replied. “But we can’t yet say who knew about your complaint or who shared the information.”<\/p>\n I felt my stomach twist.<\/p>\n I had suspected that Emily’s classmates were responsible for most of the cruelty. Now I was looking at a post that seemed to use the authority of an adult to undermine her complaint.<\/p>\n But there was more.<\/p>\n Principal Daniels opened another file.<\/p>\n It showed a series of messages from a private student group. One of the accounts had posted a screenshot of an email I had sent to the school counselor. The screenshot included my daughter’s name and the fact that I had raised concerns about her well-being.<\/p>\n Someone had circulated my confidential communication among students.<\/p>\n I stared at the screen, struggling to understand how a private email had reached them.<\/p>\n “Who had access to that email?” I asked.<\/p>\n “The counselor, the safeguarding team, and the staff involved in handling the concern,” Principal Daniels said. “We will need to establish how the screenshot was obtained.”<\/p>\n “Was it sent by someone at the school?”<\/p>\n “We cannot determine that yet.”<\/p>\n I felt anger rise, but I held on to the edge of my chair and kept my voice steady.<\/p>\n “My daughter was afraid to report this because she thought everyone would find out. Now her mother’s complaint has been shared among students. How can I reassure her that asking for help won’t make things worse?”<\/p>\n Principal Daniels lowered her eyes.<\/p>\n “You have every right to ask that question. We need to find out how this happened, and we need to protect Emily while we do.”<\/p>\n For several seconds, I could not speak.<\/p>\n The people I had suspected were only part of the story. The harassment had spread through a network of students, online accounts, and possibly someone who had access to school information.<\/p>\n But I still did not know who had created the fake staff account or shared my email.<\/p>\n I was not going to accuse a teacher without evidence.<\/p>\n I was not going to let uncertainty become another rumor.<\/p>\n I needed facts.<\/p>\n “First,” I said, “I want a written plan for Emily’s safety. Second, I want the school to preserve the relevant records and investigate how my email was shared. Third, I want to know who will be responsible for communicating with us.”<\/p>\n Mr. Bennett wrote down each request.<\/p>\n Principal Daniels agreed to arrange a meeting with the safeguarding team and to identify a staff member Emily could approach privately if she felt unsafe. She also agreed that the school would review supervision during lunch and other periods when students were less closely monitored.<\/p>\n I asked whether the school could contact the relevant online platforms about the abusive content.<\/p>\n They said they would help document the incidents and provide information needed for reports, while I would retain the evidence and report accounts directly where appropriate.<\/p>\n Before I left, Principal Daniels looked at the folders again.<\/p>\n “Mrs. Harper, I am sorry we didn’t recognize the extent of what was happening sooner.”<\/p>\n I appreciated the apology, but I needed more than regret.<\/p>\n “I hope this meeting is the beginning of a proper response,” I said. “My daughter needs to know that the adults around her will protect her, not simply tell her that everything seems fine.”<\/p>\n That afternoon, I went home and sat with Emily at the kitchen table.<\/p>\n I told her about the meeting without showing her every page. I explained that the school had agreed to investigate, that we were taking steps to protect her, and that we would not let the matter disappear simply because it was uncomfortable.<\/p>\n She listened quietly.<\/p>\n Then she asked, “Did they believe me?”<\/p>\n I reached across the table and took her hand.<\/p>\n “They saw the messages. They know we have evidence. They still have to investigate who did what, but you don’t have to prove that those words hurt you. I believe you.”<\/p>\n She lowered her head.<\/p>\n “I was scared you would think I was being dramatic.”<\/p>\n “Never.”<\/p>\n She cried again, but this time she did not try to hide it.<\/p>\n Over the next several days, the school began contacting families and reviewing the reported accounts. Some students admitted participating in group chats. Others said they had forwarded messages without thinking about how they would affect Emily. A few denied involvement, and their roles remained uncertain.<\/p>\n The investigation did not produce a single mastermind responsible for every message.<\/p>\n Instead, it revealed a pattern of behavior that had grown because too many people had treated cruelty as entertainment.<\/p>\n Chloe had started the original rumor after the classroom disagreement. Several classmates had amplified it. Others had joined the online group because they wanted to be included. Some students who never sent a direct insult still shared humiliating screenshots or encouraged the people who did.<\/p>\n The fake staff account remained under investigation for longer. The school could not immediately determine who controlled it, and it would have been irresponsible to claim otherwise. The school restricted access to relevant systems while reviewing its records and reported the suspected misuse of staff identity through the appropriate channels.<\/p>\n The inquiry into my email also took time. The school reviewed who had received it and how its contents might have been disclosed. They did not publicly identify a culprit, and I refused to repeat rumors about staff members or parents without evidence.<\/p>\n I had learned how quickly a story could spread when people wanted a villain.<\/p>\n I was not going to let that happen again.<\/p>\n The school took disciplinary action where it established student involvement, in accordance with its policies. Some students were required to attend meetings with their parents and school staff. Others faced restrictions on school activities while the incidents were reviewed.<\/p>\n The school also introduced additional reporting procedures and reminded staff that concerns about bullying and online harassment needed to be documented rather than dismissed because a student appeared quiet or well behaved.<\/p>\n Those steps did not erase what Emily had experienced.<\/p>\n She still worried when her phone buzzed. She still hesitated before walking into school. Some mornings, she asked whether she could stay home.<\/p>\n We worked with her pediatrician and a qualified counselor to help her recover. The counselor taught her ways to recognize when the messages were triggering her anxiety and how to ask for help before the feelings became overwhelming.<\/p>\n We also made a practical plan for her phone. We adjusted privacy settings, blocked abusive accounts where appropriate, reported harmful content, and preserved new evidence instead of engaging with the people responsible.<\/p>\n I did not demand that Emily become fearless.<\/p>\n I wanted her to feel safe enough to be herself again.<\/p>\n The first real sign of change came several weeks later.<\/p>\n Emily arrived home one afternoon carrying a library book and a small paper bag.<\/p>\n She set both on the kitchen counter.<\/p>\n “What’s in the bag?” I asked.<\/p>\n She smiled a little.<\/p>\n “Cookies.”<\/p>\n “Did you buy them?”<\/p>\n “No. Hannah gave them to me.”<\/p>\n Hannah was a girl from Emily’s science class who had never been part of the harassment. She had started talking to Emily after a school project brought them together.<\/p>\n “She asked if I wanted to study with her tomorrow,” Emily added.<\/p>\n I tried not to show how much those words meant to me.<\/p>\n “That sounds nice.”<\/p>\n Emily nodded.<\/p>\n Then she said something I would remember for the rest of my life.<\/p>\n “I think maybe not everybody hates me.”<\/p>\n I walked around the counter and hugged her.<\/p>\n “Not everybody did, sweetheart. And the people who treated you cruelly never had the right to decide what you were worth.”<\/p>\n She rested her head against my shoulder.<\/p>\n For a long time, I had believed that protecting my daughter meant solving whatever problem she brought home. I thought I could reassure her, contact a teacher, and somehow make the world feel safe again.<\/p>\n I now understood that children sometimes hide their pain because they fear the consequences of telling an adult. They may worry that their phones will be taken away, that their classmates will retaliate, or that nobody will believe them.<\/p>\n Emily had not stayed silent because she wanted to deceive me.<\/p>\n She had stayed silent because the people hurting her had convinced her that asking for help would make everything worse.<\/p>\n I could not undo the weeks she had spent reading those messages alone.<\/p>\n I could, however, make sure she never had to face that kind of fear without support again.<\/p>\n Months later, Emily was not suddenly the most popular girl in school. Her friendships grew slowly, and there were still difficult days. The school investigation took time, and not every question about the online accounts received an immediate answer.<\/p>\n But she began drawing again.<\/p>\n She returned to the mystery novels she loved. She started spending time with Hannah and two other classmates who shared her interest in science and art.<\/p>\n One Saturday morning, I found her sitting at the dining table with colored pencils spread around her.<\/p>\n She was drawing a small house surrounded by trees.<\/p>\n “What’s that?” I asked.<\/p>\n She looked up.<\/p>\n “Somewhere quiet. A place where nobody can bother you.”<\/p>\n I sat beside her.<\/p>\n “It looks peaceful.”<\/p>\n She studied the picture for a moment, then added a window with yellow curtains.<\/p>\n “I think I want to make the house bigger,” she said. “Maybe people could come there if they needed somewhere to feel safe.”<\/p>\n I felt tears sting my eyes, but I kept my voice steady.<\/p>\n “That sounds like a wonderful idea.”<\/p>\n She returned to her drawing.<\/p>\n I watched her work and thought about the hundreds of pages I had carried into the principal’s office. They had been necessary because the adults responsible for protecting children needed to understand what had happened. But the pages were never the most important part of the story.<\/p>\n The most important part was the girl who had come home one afternoon and whispered that nobody wanted her around.<\/p>\n She had believed those words because she had heard them too often, from too many people, in too many places.<\/p>\n My job was not to convince her that the world would always be kind.<\/p>\n It was to help her understand that cruelty was not proof of her worthlessness, that she deserved protection, and that asking for help was not a betrayal of anyone.<\/p>\n Before bed that night, Emily hugged me.<\/p>\n “Thank you for believing me, Mom.”<\/p>\n I held her close.<\/p>\n “You never have to earn my belief by being perfect,” I told her. “You can make mistakes. You can have bad days. You can be upset or angry or afraid. None of those things makes you deserve to be hurt.”<\/p>\n She nodded against my shoulder.<\/p>\n Then she went to bed.<\/p>\n I stayed in the hallway for a moment, listening to the quiet of our home.<\/p>\n I still worried about her. I probably always would.<\/p>\n But I no longer mistook silence for proof that everything was fine. I knew that a child could sit in a classroom, complete every assignment, and smile when a teacher asked how she was doing while carrying a terrible burden no one had noticed.<\/p>\n And I knew that protecting a child required more than asking whether she was behaving well.<\/p>\n It required asking whether she felt safe.<\/p>\n That Thursday afternoon, when Emily first told me nobody wanted her around, I had promised that things would get better.<\/p>\n I could not guarantee that promise would come true quickly, or that every person involved would face the consequences I thought appropriate.<\/p>\n What I could promise was that I would listen, that I would take her pain seriously, and that I would keep working with the people responsible for her safety until we had a plan that made sense.<\/p>\n The school records helped expose how the harassment had spread. The saved messages gave the investigation something concrete to examine. 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